Monday, August 12, 2013

Mastering the art of coexistence

In those moments of extreme boredom when I could be doing awesome things like watching movies or picking up my favorite book to read, I instead choose to wonder about the weird ways in which the human mind and in turn our society works (don't ask me why I do that, I myself am not sure). Today being one such boring day, I went on to think about who or what set the norms for us to follow. Of course the norms of our society were not agreed upon by everyone. We 7 billion people, each with our own perspective towards life can not all possibly agree upon anything. In those cases probably the majority or the most influential were instrumental in setting up the norms. What was once decided upon by a certain group of people is what we consider to be the face of perfection today. We add on to that and impose our own ideas on others. We seem to forget that the world is all about perspectives. What you might think is great might not be that great to others.

Each of us has our own way of thinking, own ideas and our very own perspectives. For so many of us to co exist, we need to learn to find a midpoint between our views and others'. Sadly that is not the case. We are all forced to comply by the society's rules. If you think about it, that is a great way to prevent chaos. Let us all be robots, forget our personal likes and dislikes and do what others expect us to do. But isn't it important for us to take into consideration everyone's needs? I'm not going to talk about how the views of everyone living in a society should be considered. It would be extremely chaotic and impractical. Since I don't have any ideas on how to achieve that without making a mess out of social life, I'm going to keep mum about that. But as individuals, we need to realize that any interaction or relationship works mutually. It needs two people for it to work. It needs both their perspectives to be considered for it to work. And that is where most of us make a big, big mistake. We seem to forget that the other person needs to have a say. We impose our ideas upon others. We assess other people using the same scale that we use for ourselves.

Each of us is different. When you think you are being perfect, another person could find a thousand flaws in you. Keep in mind that when you point others' flaws to them and expect them to change themselves to suit your taste, they might be ready to do the same with you. It might be time and energy consuming but remember to not impose your ideas upon anyone but to take everyone's ideas into consideration. Remember that you maybe perfect in your perspective but not necessarily so in others' perspectives. Keep in mind that if each of us began to act the same, look the same and think the same, we would all lose our identities and the beauty of being human. 


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