We've all heard people say over and over again, "Forget the past. Don't give a thought to what has already happened. Move on." Yes, we need to move on. But I believe that we don't really need to forget what already happened in order to move on. In fact, we need to keep the past in mind as we move forward. I realized that, when I noticed that people often say things in an overflow of emotions. Most of us do not go back to think about what we said or did, nor do we think about what impact our words and actions had on other people. It is often said that people do not think before acting when in anger. When you think about it, this is true not only for anger, but for excess of any emotion. People are incapable of thinking clearly when they experience too much of happiness, sorrow, anger, annoyance or any other emotions. How does this relate to not forgetting the past?
Not staying entangled in memories of the past is important, but there are certain things that you should never forget. I never forget things I said or did. Most of the time, we do not think before speaking. Later we forget all about it. While talking to others, we need to make sure that our words do not hurt them. We also need to keep in mind that we don't say something we would regret later. It's human to act in the heat of the moment. We can't afford to spend time thinking before saying something. But we can sure try.
Never forgetting what you said, gives you a chance to not make that mistake again. Learning from your mistakes is the best way of learning. Remembering our past actions gives us an opportunity for that kind of learning. Next time you think you spoke to someone in too much anger or excitement, run that conversation through in your head. If you realize that you'd said something you weren't supposed to, you're probably not going to make that same mistake again. Some things about the past should be forgotten but certain other things need to be stored in some corner of your brain so that they can serve as a reminder in the future.
Not staying entangled in memories of the past is important, but there are certain things that you should never forget. I never forget things I said or did. Most of the time, we do not think before speaking. Later we forget all about it. While talking to others, we need to make sure that our words do not hurt them. We also need to keep in mind that we don't say something we would regret later. It's human to act in the heat of the moment. We can't afford to spend time thinking before saying something. But we can sure try.
Never forgetting what you said, gives you a chance to not make that mistake again. Learning from your mistakes is the best way of learning. Remembering our past actions gives us an opportunity for that kind of learning. Next time you think you spoke to someone in too much anger or excitement, run that conversation through in your head. If you realize that you'd said something you weren't supposed to, you're probably not going to make that same mistake again. Some things about the past should be forgotten but certain other things need to be stored in some corner of your brain so that they can serve as a reminder in the future.
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